Sam and I grieve differently. Although at times it can be difficult that we do not grieve the same it is okay. I like to talk about Christian and mostly Sam does not. This does not mean that he doesn't love his son. We have both accepted the fact that we are different and therefore we will not grieve the same. We both respect each others journey of grief. It is all about communicating and being honest with each other. Accept that your partner will grieve at a different stage to you and respect how they have to grieve. Allow them that right.