Friday, March 18, 2011

Planning a Memorial Service or Funeral

Planning a funeral or memorial service is an incredibly emotional experience. It is an integral part of the healing process and it will be a day that you remember for the rest of your life.

There are so many decisions to make and it can be very overwhelming. Choosing whether to bury your child or have them cremated is a very personal one. Having your child buried in a cemetery will mean that you will always have a place to visit when you feel you want to be close to them. Especially on their birthday and anniversary. Having your child cremated means that you are able to keep their ashes in your home. You have the decision on whether you would like to scatter them or not. Nowadays you are even able to have some of their ashes placed within a piece of jewellery.

Planning their memorial service may be exhausting. Ask family and friends to help if you need it.

Here are a few ideas for your childs special day.

Choose a special song to be played. Make sure you listen to the song carefully before you make a decision on it. Read all of the lyrics. Click here if you would like to see some songs suggested by other bereaved parents.

Choose a special outfit for your child to wear.

You could have them wrapped in a special blanket.

Place a special toy with your child.

Write them a letter.

If you have other children do not be afraid to involve them in the service. They may want to write a letter or draw a picture for their sibling and have it placed with them in their casket.

Have a balloon release wherever the service is.

You might like to think about having a candlelight service. These are generally held at sunset. The parents light the first candle and everybody who is attending comes up to lights a candle too. This is such a warm, even magical way to say good bye to your precious child.